1– Drop the Drama

Wherever you are—clinic, OR, call room, or at home—and especially if you feel totally justified and clearly in the right, the first step to being okay is this: drop the drama.

You know you’re in drama when you find yourself resisting reality—wishing people or circumstances were different.

In the drama triangle, there are three roles: Victim, Villain, and Hero.

When your office manager double-books your clinic without asking…
When SPD loses one of your instruments…
When anesthesia is moving at the speed of molasses…
When the ER wakes you up in the middle of the night for something that could’ve waited…

It’s easy to fall into victim mode. And once you’re there, it’s just as easy to start handing out villain cards. Maybe to individuals. Maybe to entire systems.

But here’s the catch: when we identify as victims and make others into villains, we give our power away.
We’re saying, “YOU did this to me.”
And now we’re stuck waiting for someone else to swoop in and hero us.

There’s a better option.
Instead of being a victim, you can become a creator.
Instead of labeling someone a villain, you can see them as a challenger—someone who’s revealing what really matters to you.

Maybe you didn’t know how strongly you value protected clinic time—until someone double-booked you. Now you know. And now you can clearly communicate: “This doesn’t work for me, and I won’t allow it moving forward.”

When you drop the drama and ask,
“What can I create from this?” you move from powerless to powerful.

This shift is subtle, but it changes everything.

2– Get back in your Business

According to spiritual teacher Byron Katie, the world is made up of three kinds of business:
Our business, other people’s business, and the universe’s business.

We only have agency in one of them: our own.

When you bring yourself back into your business, you ask,
“Where do I have control?”
You stop waiting for other people to change.
You stop waiting for the circumstances to finally line up in your favor.
You let everyone and everything be exactly what they are.

This doesn’t mean you become passive.
It means you release resistance.
It feels like a lightening—like dropping a load you didn’t realize you were carrying.

To be clear:
This isn’t about letting SPD keep botching your sets.
It’s not about letting your clinic staff walk all over you.

You can absolutely take action. You can advocate, redirect, restructure, set a boundary.

But you don’t need to add drama to do it.
You don’t need to feel indignant to make a clear request.
You don’t need to stew in frustration to effect change.

Agency without resistance.
Power without the storm.

That’s the magic of staying in your own business..

3– Remember your WHY

You entered this profession for a reason.
To help. To heal. To have a real impact.

You put yourself through decades of training—not because it was easy,
but because it mattered to you.

So when everything feels hard—when the system feels broken, when you're tired, when the cracks start to show—
remember your why.

Return to it.
Ground into it.
Let it be your anchor.

You don’t have to carry the weight of the world.
But you do get to reconnect to the part of you that chose this path with a full heart.

How To Be OK in 3 Simple Steps

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