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Meet Mel

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The Power of Belief

When I was 13 years old, I decided I was going to become a surgeon. I knew it with such conviction that there was no other option for me but to take action to realize that dream. Despite having no exposure to the medical field, growing up in poverty, and suffering childhood trauma, I made it happen. Because the only things that mattered were my DESIRE and my BELIEF. I desired to become a surgeon, and I believed I could achieve that goal. Everything else was just drama and obstacles. 

For the first 7 years of my career I thought I was okay, but I wasn't. Burnout is an insidious thing, and surgeons are trained to tolerate prolonged discomfort.

It felt like I was trapped in a career I didn't sign up for. So I distracted myself with overworking and false pleasures. I people pleased and overachieved and sought external validation, but at the end of the day, I just felt deeply and profoundly empty. It was exhausting. Eventually something had to give. I couldn’t be everything to everyone and nothing to myself. Who was I anyway? I had been trained to ignore my mind and body for so long that my real identity was a mystery to me.

Part of the problem was: I lost touch with my essential self. My brain told me I should be satisfied with performing surgeries, taking care of patients, making money, and just getting through the grind until retirement. Slowly, I began to realize that the path my social self wanted to pursue was only causing me suffering. Suffering is such a beautiful thing; it tells us when we need to correct course.

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Then the pandemic hit, and it felt like ripping a band-aid off a fresh wound. Suddenly all my distractions were taken away. My practice effectively shut down. I couldn’t go to the gym to distract myself with exercise. I couldn’t go out with friends or on vacations with my family. I had to just stop and be with my thoughts and feelings. I was forced to pause and look at my sense of unworthiness, shame, insecurity, self-loathing, and fear. It was the most awful, emotionally painful experience of my adult life.

 

That’s when my life bottomed out.

 

Then I found coaching, and everything got astronomically better.

 

Nothing outside of me changed. I simply learned to manage my own mind.

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Coaching is the Answer

With coaching, I was able to see all the events and circumstances in my life as neutral, my thoughts as suggestions, and my emotions as fuel for action. I started to live consciously and deliberately instead of on autopilot. I got to know my essential self - what makes me tick, what brings me joy - and I made it a priority to honor my commitments to me. I create results in my life that I deeply desire. I flow through life. I take action despite fear. I choose discomfort. I get it now. I'm proud of the life I'm creating. That’s the power of coaching. That’s the power of belief and mindset. The best part about my story is that I am NOT special. If you are barely getting by, functioning but struggling, then it would be my honor to help you. Coaching is the answer.

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